to all of those thinspo/fasting/anorexia/bulimia/some sort of eating disorder sites out there,

 

Please, stop. It breaks my heart to see girls around the world hold themselves to such an unhealthy standard. I know this is all stuff that you've probably heard before, but I feel obliged to ask you to try and please, please, please get help. If not for yourself, then at least for the hundreds of vulnerable girls who use Xanga thinspo sites as ammunition for their own self hatred. It feels so awful to see so many of you out there who are hurting and to know that my assurances that you are beautiful (because you are, really!!) seem to fall on deaf ears.

Just know this: you are not alone. We all have our own insecurities. And if we would just tell each other once in awhile, to remind ourselves of what is and always will be true, we are beautiful. 

 

So do me a favor, Xanga readers! If you usually comment on my blog (which I appreciate, by the way) rather than commenting on this one, use your comment on someone else. Remind them of all the things that are awesome about them!

After all, we all need reminding sometimes =)

 

"what do you do when you feel really insecure and, i don’t know how to describe it any other way but when you feel ugly? do you ever get that? if you do is there anything that helps it go away?"

I get that all the time, it happens to the best of us. Honestly, I force myself to really take a look in the mirror. I know that seems counter intuitive, but look at yourself and smile and laugh and realize that your body and face are yours and they’re unique and beautiful and to compare them to anyone else is an injustice to everything you are. Also, spend more time with people who make you truly happy… I’ve found that I always feel beautiful when I am happy.