there is this one saying (actually, i don't know if it's actually a saying, but i saw it on a graphic once, so whatever) that you should do all your crying in the rain. which sounds ideal because then no one knows you're crying unless you have those big heaving sobs (which i totally do) but there IS the risk of contracting pneumonia if you have to cry for a really long time, so i've come up with a better alternative: crying in the shower. it's calm, quiet, and no one can hear you.